ALL GENERATIONS · SHARED TIME
A Grandparent-Child Listening Visit: Conversation Prompts That Build Two-Way Attention
Listening visits are structured times where both grandparent and child practice being present with each other: the adult models attentive listening and the child practices sharing or asking questions. These visits should be brief, predictable, and guided by simple prompts. Adult supervision is required for young children and whenever conversations could become emotionally intense. Respect privacy and avoid pressuring anyone to disclose personal details they are uncomfortable sharing.
The goals of a listening visit
A listening visit prioritizes attention and curiosity. One person speaks about a small, recent experience while the other listens, then repeats a short reflection before asking a single open question. The format teaches turn-taking and models respectful attention for the child while giving the grandparent a clear role as learner and sharer.
Set a calm, neutral environment—turn off screens and set a short timer. If the visit raises strong emotions, stop and offer a comforting activity or involve another trusted adult.
Simple, low-cost supplies
You only need a comfortable seat, a small object to pass as a “talking toy” (a stuffed animal or a small cushion), and a printed list of 8–12 prompts. If you prefer digital prompts, use a device already in the home with adult supervision for device use and privacy.
Use a simple visual timer (an hourglass or kitchen timer) to signal turn length. For very young children, shorter turns of 1–2 minutes are appropriate.
How to run a 15–20 minute listening visit
1) Set the rules: one person speaks while the other listens without interrupting. The listener will then reflect one short sentence and ask one question.
2) Start with the grandparent or child—either can lead. The speaker holds the talking toy while speaking about one recent, low-stakes event (e.g., “I saw a blue bird this morning” or “Today I got a new crayon”). Keep topics light unless everyone agrees to something deeper.
3) Listener reflects: after the speaker finishes, the listener says one brief reflection like “You felt happy when you saw the bird.” Then ask one open question like “What did it sound like?” or “What made you laugh?” Keep the exchange to one question and one reflection to keep attention manageable for children.